Lets examine the traits to watch out for when looking for
the right guy. It is possible to have a guy who will treat you like you have
ever wanted. The guy who will give you the seven flowers that will give you
fulfilment. But like every good thing it is hard to get. Most especially in our
present world full of mama's boys, players, wannabe players and gold-diggers.
Nevertheless if you follow the tips I am about to give you, you can still find the ace in a card of fifty. You can spot your fulfilment guy from a whole lot of men from playboys to players to mama's boy, or abusers.
Before you open your heart, or start dating any one make sure you have
considered these traits. Before you open your heart be sure he is capable of
loving you the way you desire to be loved. Fully, freely, faithfully. Don't
gamble with your heart baby, there is nothing like heart insurance, remember?
These are the seven traits that can spot out your fulfilment-guy.
1. He loves his mother and sisters
If you want to know how a man is going to treat you, pay attention to the way he treats his mother and all his sisters. If he loves his mother, sisters, and all the female in the family he can love you. He might not love all of them but you have to pay attention to how he loves the ones he loves.
Does he love them deeply? Is he afraid of demonstrating love to them? How is he treating them generally? If you like how he treats them then you can smile because he will treat you the same way.
It is a natural rule that men who treat their mothers/sisters well will have been emotionally hardwired from the time they were little boys to cherish and respect women.
2. He has women friends
I said women friends not lovers. Women are generally selective in getting friends among the men folks. Check it out, who are your male friends? They must be really nice guys, responsible Men. There is something good about them that made you to choose them as your friends. The same way, when women trust a man enough to call him a friend, that's a good sign he's probably a genuinely nice guy.
Note also that when he introduces those women friends to you, they wouldn't be jealous of you but happy for you. That's a pointer to a nice guy. And also when a guy has female friends it means he is not threatened by their achievement or independence, he rather sees them as equals.
3. He has Great men friends too
Please don't make the mistake of thinking you can change a man. Only in the movies does the love-the-ladies player become a loves-you-only partner. In real life it doesn't work that way. A guy with player friends can't be less. If his friends are a great bunch of responsible guys then he is probably reliable and real. Don't forget, he that makes friend with dog will sooner or later feed on excreta.
4. He is organized and clean
If he is organized and clean in his life, home and office, he is probably capable of taking care of himself, he won't expect you to. Any man who doesn't think that making dinner or doing laundry is “women's work” hence he isn't looking for a mummy or a maid to help him do the laundry and culinary but a lover.
5. He is a gentleman
Who is a gentleman? A guy with good home training, well behaved, good manners. The guy who opens door for you, gives his seat to old people and treats people with respect whether they deserve it or not. If he has good manners he will probably be a good guy, any player can fake this but not for a long time.
6. Respects life and God
He is a gentleman who respects man; he is a real man who respects God. Why do we have to bring God into this? Most men are forceful naturally and it is their forceful nature that makes them abusive. It is only the fear of God and value for life that can make them not to be abusive. If he doesn't have any value for the life of dogs, cats or birds he will probably abuse you. And if he cares nothing about God, he won't be capable of giving you the spiritual intimacy needed.
7. Capable of research and study
I am not saying he must be a scholar or a professor. No. He should be capable of researching and studying you. Women are like a textbook and relationship is like a school. There are no teachers in the school of relationship. Where there is no teacher you go for research. Come to think of it, if he can't be patient enough to study you, how will he know what you want.
For the married women, you can still make him treat you the way you want. If you are sure he loves you take this book to him and discuss what you want and how you want to be treated. But if you are not very sure whether he loves you that much to listen to you, start by showing him love. How long I cannot tell, but I assure you, your love will surely give birth to love. Discussing how you want to be treated is the key to the seven flowers of fulfilment.
Nevertheless if you follow the tips I am about to give you, you can still find the ace in a card of fifty. You can spot your fulfilment guy from a whole lot of men from playboys to players to mama's boy, or abusers.
These are the seven traits that can spot out your fulfilment-guy.
1. He loves his mother and sisters
If you want to know how a man is going to treat you, pay attention to the way he treats his mother and all his sisters. If he loves his mother, sisters, and all the female in the family he can love you. He might not love all of them but you have to pay attention to how he loves the ones he loves.
Does he love them deeply? Is he afraid of demonstrating love to them? How is he treating them generally? If you like how he treats them then you can smile because he will treat you the same way.
It is a natural rule that men who treat their mothers/sisters well will have been emotionally hardwired from the time they were little boys to cherish and respect women.
2. He has women friends
I said women friends not lovers. Women are generally selective in getting friends among the men folks. Check it out, who are your male friends? They must be really nice guys, responsible Men. There is something good about them that made you to choose them as your friends. The same way, when women trust a man enough to call him a friend, that's a good sign he's probably a genuinely nice guy.
Note also that when he introduces those women friends to you, they wouldn't be jealous of you but happy for you. That's a pointer to a nice guy. And also when a guy has female friends it means he is not threatened by their achievement or independence, he rather sees them as equals.
3. He has Great men friends too
Please don't make the mistake of thinking you can change a man. Only in the movies does the love-the-ladies player become a loves-you-only partner. In real life it doesn't work that way. A guy with player friends can't be less. If his friends are a great bunch of responsible guys then he is probably reliable and real. Don't forget, he that makes friend with dog will sooner or later feed on excreta.
4. He is organized and clean
If he is organized and clean in his life, home and office, he is probably capable of taking care of himself, he won't expect you to. Any man who doesn't think that making dinner or doing laundry is “women's work” hence he isn't looking for a mummy or a maid to help him do the laundry and culinary but a lover.
5. He is a gentleman
Who is a gentleman? A guy with good home training, well behaved, good manners. The guy who opens door for you, gives his seat to old people and treats people with respect whether they deserve it or not. If he has good manners he will probably be a good guy, any player can fake this but not for a long time.
6. Respects life and God
He is a gentleman who respects man; he is a real man who respects God. Why do we have to bring God into this? Most men are forceful naturally and it is their forceful nature that makes them abusive. It is only the fear of God and value for life that can make them not to be abusive. If he doesn't have any value for the life of dogs, cats or birds he will probably abuse you. And if he cares nothing about God, he won't be capable of giving you the spiritual intimacy needed.
7. Capable of research and study
I am not saying he must be a scholar or a professor. No. He should be capable of researching and studying you. Women are like a textbook and relationship is like a school. There are no teachers in the school of relationship. Where there is no teacher you go for research. Come to think of it, if he can't be patient enough to study you, how will he know what you want.
For the married women, you can still make him treat you the way you want. If you are sure he loves you take this book to him and discuss what you want and how you want to be treated. But if you are not very sure whether he loves you that much to listen to you, start by showing him love. How long I cannot tell, but I assure you, your love will surely give birth to love. Discussing how you want to be treated is the key to the seven flowers of fulfilment.
