It should be established that sex is good and it is ordained by God.
God, however, set boundaries to sexual expressions and some of these boundaries
would be discussed as we look at reasons why pre-marital sex is not good.
SEX DOES NOT MEAN LOVE: What you need as a young person is
LOVE and not SEX. Pre-marital Sex actually shadows this fact from you
and make you believe that sex is Love. Love is a journey and not a destination
and it keeps growing as it gets nurtured. When this reality is exchanged for
sex, the ability to love truly becomes stifled and stunted. Sex is not a test
of love. Pre-marital sex is a DESTINATION while love is a JOURNEY. If marital
commitment is based on sex and not love then, the relationship is doomed for
failure from its inception.
VIRGINITY IS A VIRTUE: Virginity is a virtue which should be kept by
every
young person (male or female) but, when it is mentioned, people tend to
push it towards the female gender alone and this should not be. It is a virtue
that both sexes should posses and this should be kept as a precious gift for
your spouse when the time comes.
NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES TRAILS PRE-MARITAL SEX: These
consequences could be in different ways but whichever way it comes, it
is negative. If the relationship between the two people involved in this act
does not lead to marriage, (which in most cases, it does not) it leaves the
parties with; hurts, guilt and feelings of being used and dumped especially with
the lady and what has been done cannot be undone. In most cases, a guy cares
less about this and the lady bears all these alone.
On the other hand, if the relationship leads to marriage, the
foundation of trust in marriage has been destroyed by the act.
The man may think since the lady allowed him to have sex with her
outside marriage, she could allow other men and be unfaithful. This then leads
to suspicion on the part of the two of them thereby leading to conflict in the
marriage. Is it really worth all these conflicts?
IT SHOWS LACK OF COMMITMENT AND MUTUAL RESPECT: A young
person who is morally sound has integrity and personal values and also
respects the values of others. Young lady, if that man loves you, he would wait
to show how much he respects you and how committed he is to you. It even shows
that he is a “MAN” who can take a good lead over your life.
Also, young man, if that lady respects her body as God’s temple and you
as her future spouse, she would not allow such disrespectful and illicit act to
be performed on her body and with this, you could be assured that she would be
a faithful and virtuous wife for you.
PRE-MARITAL SEX IS A SIN AGAINST GOD: It is true that God
ordained sex but He set a standard – sex is only allowed and right in
marriage. Sex before marriage and outside marriage is against God’s will and
it’s a sin against Him.
PRE-MARITAL SEX IS A SIN AGAISNT YOUR BODY: When you
have sex with someone whom you don’t have the marriage bond, you are
defiling your body and placing cheap price on yourself either as a young man or
young lady.
SEX IS A COVENANT: Sex within the marital bond is an expression of
sexual feelings which is an indepth part of the lives of the people
involved. It is one and a major activity that seals or binds the marriage union
between the man and the woman to make them one.
Should you make this covenant (bond) with anybody?
THE RISK OF STIs, HIV/AIDS, UNWANTED PREGNANCY & ABORTION.
A real man would not put a lady he loves through the agony of unwanted
pregnancy and Pressure/ Danger of Abortion.
Young lady, if you also believe in the great future ahead of you, you
would not allow yourself to be a victim of such agony and danger.
Also, the parties are at risk of STIs & HIV/AIDS because the
act is carried out in a fearful, secretive and rushed ways making them care
less about medical checks/ treatments that could guide and help their
relationship.
IT IS A SIGN OF IRRESPONSIBILITY.
A young person who feels responsible to God, his partner, his family
members and family name would not engage in such illicit act.
A young man / woman who has a long way to go and has well designed
plans for a great future would not engage in such act that could tarnish
his/her image and jeopardize his future.
REMEMBER JOSEPH AND HOW HE RAN
IT’S WORTH WAITING FOR: Sex within marriage bond is accompanied by a
relaxed, pleasurable feeling which brings about utmost satisfaction.
For instance, if a food is not well done and still on fire and you steal it hot
out of impatience, you get hurt and loose the sweet taste compared to when it
is well done and served, when you can relax and eat comfortably-such is sex
inside marriage. You don’t get scared about anything, yet closeness is built,
respect is not lost and satisfaction is not denied. If you steal it untimely
dearest one, I bet it, you will get hurt and may never get the sweetest part of
it as you should.
Friend, if you have been in the act and still in it, you could change
your mind and stop. There is help for you and God can still mend the battered
part of your life if only you would stop and turn to HIM for help.
ABSTINENCE IS THE HOT CAKE IN TOWN, SHARE IN IT.
For further discussion and counsel; call – AYANFE ON 07030704942.
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I love you.
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Well written
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