Get Married or Burn

“But if they don't have self-control, let them marry. For it's better to marry than to burn.” (1 Corinthians 7:9). Mine opinion as always been that, men will always burn, marriage or no marriage. Research has proven that even religious monks who made several attempt to crucify their flesh still burn. However, whenever a man is sold-out to an idea, a pursuit, or higher purpose he hardly burn after things not primarily in his focus.

A curious story, which certainly casts light on the phraseology of this place, is related by Dr. Lightfoot, from the tract Kiddushin, fol. 81. "Some captive women were brought to Nehardea, and disposed in the house and the upper room of Rabbi Amram. They took away the ladder (that the women might not get down, but stay there till they were ransomed.) As one of these captives passed by the window, the light of her great beauty shined into the house. Amram (captivated) set up the ladder; and when he was got to the middle of the steps (checked by his conscience) he stopped short, and with a loud voice cried out Fire! Fire! in the house of Amram! (This he did that, the neighbors flocking in, he might be obliged to desist from the evil affection which now prevailed in him.) The rabbins ran to him, and (seeing no fire) they said, Thou hast disgraced us. To which he replied: It is better that ye be disgraced in the house of Amram in this world, then that ye be disgraced by me in the world to come. He then adjured that evil affection to go out of him, and it went out as a pillar of Fire. Amram said: Thou art Fire, and I am Flesh; yet for all that I have prevailed against thee." From this story much instruction may be derived.

In this side of life, you either running with a vision or burning with a passion. One of the primary reasons for sexual promiscuity is lack of understanding of the true meaning and purpose of sex. When we keep saying sex is for married people we are selling half the meaning and purpose of sex, so men and women go into marriage for the sole purpose of sex and get burn any way because they soon realise that marriage is not a cure to sexual promiscuity.

But, what if they know that sex doesn't really entice them, that it is their thoughts that are doing the reggae dance? What if they know that when their minds bought into the soft-sell advert that they are weak sexually, they will always be slaves to their emotions? What if they understand that their emotions cannot be ignored but can be rechanneled for better purposes? What is they realised that so long they are humans they will always either burn or run after not just emotions they struggle with but with emotions they love. If you ask me, the whole question of burn or lust strives only on our ignorance or lack of understanding of our true nature.

Amram in our story above is a true picture of a man who knows that the emotions that make us burn strives only in secrets, or darkness. These emotions will always coward at the sound of disgrace or shame. Guilt is their titanic household. He knows that your libido is a coward who dies that touch of the truth. You want to buy a principle that will help you not to burn in and before marriage buy this principle. What you cannot do without guilt and shame is not what doing at all. If it cannot be done on top of the ladder, and you will still be proud of what you did, it should not be done. Like Amram, shout the fire out of your system. Never go behind the shadows, always stay in the light.

Much Love, I say don’t burn.